So, you married a non-homeschooler and now you’ve got kids in the picture that you’re homeschooling. You’re about to find yourself in a very interesting position with you spouse. While they might be completely on-board with the idea of homeschooling, their level of involvement (or lack-there-of) might surprise you. Here are five things to keep in mind when homeschooling your children alongside a non-homeschooled spouse:

1. You have a Leg-Up… And they know it.

You spouse knows you know more than them when it comes to homeschooling. You lived it and they can’t compete with that.

 Don’t make them have to.

Include them into your decision-making process. If you have an opinion based on experience, state it, but don’t expect it to be the final say. Dialogue. Ask your spouse their thoughts on the topic at hand.

2. Your spouse doesn’t know the homeschooling terminology, curriculum, conferences, philosophies, etc.

Take the time to explain these things to them. If they can speak the language, they will be more inclined to be involved. Don’t get frustrated if you have to explain things a couple of times over. You have lived this information, but they are hearing most of it for the first time. Fill them in on what was part of your homeschooling experience and what you hope to be part of your children’s.

3. Take advantage of meeting other homeschool couples

It is important that your spouse feels part of the homeschooling community. Homeschooling can be a lonely sport, so it is helpful to surround yourself with others who are in the same boat. As homeschooling moms, we find community through co-ops and playdates, but that’s not the case for homeschooling dads. It’s a lot harder for them to feel like they are part of this community and not intruding on their wives’ “thing.”

4. Talk through Expectations

Does your spouse expect homeschool to look like school at home? Do they expect certain topics to be covered? Do you expect your spouse to teach a certain subject? Talk though these expectations and from there, design your purpose for homeschooling. Being on the same page for why you homeschool is crucial for successful homeschooling.

5. They might not show any interest at all in the homeschooling of your children

If this is the case, don’t push it. Continue to offer information, but don’t force the information down their throats. Be sure to implement the other points in this post to help foster interest.


It is important to take a step back and understand where you each are coming from. But, more importantly, you need to remember you’re on the same team with the same goal: giving your kids the best education possible.